My mom was a stay at home mom and she was involved in so many areas of our lives. She was a troop leader for our troop, baked and cooked everything from scratch, ironed all of our clothes and kissed our boo boos. I thought that I wanted to be just like my mom when I was old enough to start a family of my own. When I became pregnant with my first child, my husband and I were both working and making a pretty good salary. When I was about 6 months pregnant, he was laid off and he did not return to work until our child was almost a year old. So, I worked up until the day before I was to have the baby and was working from home within a few days of delivery. I was back at work as soon as my maternity leave was up and never looked back. So much for being a stay at home mom, right? Well, just when I thought I would not see my dream come true of being a stay at home mom, I got a second chance!
Celebrate The Small Things In Life
Ten years later, I found out I was having my 2nd child, and I was now in a position to stay home and raise the baby. There were so many things I wanted to have done with and for my first child that I was unable to do. I vowed with my second baby that was not going to be the case. I decided early on that I would celebrate the small things in life and not take one moment of raising my family for granted. I absolutely loved my new role and I flourished in it! I cooked everything from scratch, played on the floor with the baby and cleaned my house every day.
Three years later, another baby arrived and my new career was in full swing! I was thinking about Allstate Good Life and their new "Good Hands for the Good Life" and it made me think of my "job". I use my hands in so many duties as a mom and boy has it been the good life I had dreamed of! I love getting dirty in the garden, making cookies from scratch with the kids helping, teaching my daughter how to iron and my son how to mop a floor! I have been a Girl Scout leader, attended almost every field trip, school performance, field day and every other event in my kids lives. I recently had a conversation with my oldest about my yearnings to be a stay at home mom and I apologized for my inability to do so. For years I had kept a feeling of guilt with me over not "being there" for my oldest daughter as I felt I had for the younger two. My daughter looked at me and told me that being a hands on parent is not always about being at every practice, event, first tooth or first kiss. She said for her, my being a great mom was about being totally present when we were together. She reminded me you can be a hands on mom without physically being a hands on mom. Wow! Do you have those moments in your life where you were able to celebrate moments of simplicity and contentment in your life or have a time that you triumphed over adversity, fear or doubt? I would love to hear your stories, so please leave me a comment and share yours.